This is a 2 part story about the energy in a name. How it can emit happy positive awareness and energy or create roadblocks in your relationship with your horse. I also discuss the power of positive thoughts.
What's in a name? Not a new question to be sure, but a good one. It's often been asked, and will certainly be asked many more times. Names serve many purposes, but my thoughts today are about nicknames. Sometimes called, "petnames."
When I'm at the feed store, tack shop, therapeutic riding centers, other barns, or just reading emails and Facebook posts I hear the strangest things. Often I'm compelled to ponder what I hear. I wonder sometimes if people "hear" themselves ... I had a sentence in my novel when Mary asks herself, "Did he hear what he just said?" Referring to the Doctor's comment inviting her to take the thirsty violet in the hospital room home with her, "You take it Mary, it'll just die here." He had just given her the news her cancer had returned.
Recently I was at a barn for a clinic and a woman introduced her horse to me. "I call him Blockhead," she told me with a smile. It's not the first time I winched at a horse's negative nickname. I've heard most of them by now. It always sets me back a step, though. And hopefully always will. I'm pretty sure I'll never really understand why some folks genuinely believe it's cute to use an insulting nickname for their horse. It's fun to sound cute and witty, I understand. What I don't understand is why so often the cute and witty is rooted in negative.
|Kessy & Dutch|
Pause a second here, take a breath and feel the difference between, "Blockhead" … and … "Handsome." One feels uninviting, harsh and paints pictures in your head of stubbornness, adversity. The other feels warm, receiving, paints pictures in your head of someone you admire, want to be with. Which would you like to be called? Which would you be happiest to respond to? Which would make you more willing to be a partner?
We all claim to understand, here in the horse world, that horses sense our emotions, even our thoughts. Yet somehow folks expect a disconnect from that understanding to the nickname given their horse. And it's even more than that.
The words we say trigger emotions and feelings within ourselves too. So even though we may want to use the moniker, "Blockhead" in an enduring way, it'll always release a different kind of energy than, "Handsome." That energy will be perceived by your horse ... And yourself.
Be sure to read tomorrow's post for Part 2 of "What's in The Spirit of Your Horse's Nickname- Or any Word."
Gitty Up ~ Dutch Henry