Howdy Folks,
Saturday, October 18, Heartland Horse Heroes held their
second Inner City Slickers (ICS) day. ICS, founded by Michael McMeel, former
drummer for Three Dog Night, is a program where at-risk youth spend a day on a
ranch, farm or equestrian center learning through ranch and equestrian chores,
activities and fun, by the "Cowboy Code," they indeed are important,
they have purpose, can build self esteem, trust and feel honor. There is a real
magic in the day and you can read more about Michael and ICS HERE.
Heartland Horse Heroes had invited girls from the Discovery
School, and beforehand we had asked for each girl to write a short note about
themselves, their fears, worries and why they were at the Discovery School.
Michael and I reviewed the stories Friday evening, and they were so sad, tough
to read. These 11 girls ranged in age between 12 and 17 and each had already in
their young lives endured so much. No wonder self esteem, trust and honor were foreign
to them. Let me mention here, we could not hold this program without our
fantastic volunteers, some of whom drove 3 and 6 hours to be there.
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LaRue Sprouse talking about holding onto your dreams no matter the obstacles |
The day started with the participants' arrival, LaRue
Sprouse, owner of Sprouses' Corner Ranch and host of Heartland Horse
Heroes led them on a short farm tour. She paused at the big show ring and spoke
about her own dreams, and the hurdles she needed to overcome to realize them. I
took the moment to build on that and encouraged them to look around at the
beauty, the horses, the world that LaRue had created. We talked about holding
fast to your dream, expect people to tell you, "you can't do it," and forging ahead anyway -
The only negativity that can touch you is what you allow, so you have it in
your power to brush it aside, to grab your dream.
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Michael explains the power of self confidence. |
Michael began to talk and engage them, he asked real
questions about being let down, about trust, respect. I watched closely their
faces, saw some ready to trust him, others roll their eyes as if to say, "Heard
all this before, no-one cares." He painted pictures they could see with
his words, promised he would always be there for them, promised they could
trust him, and themselves, and told them today would be a journey of building
trust, confidence and self respect. He asked on a scale of 1 to 10 how much
they trusted him – it varied from 5 to minus 8. He was cool with that and said
it was a lot better than minus 10, we all had a nice chuckle and a bit of an
engaging chat. But half the faces remained hard.
We then handed out journals, and asked them to write their
first thoughts of how they felt that moment. On the first page is pasted the
commitment they must sign "I believe in myself – If I fall I will get up –
If I'm beaten I will return – I will never stop getting better – I will NEVER
give up – EVER!" Each time they open their journal they will see their
commitment. We encouraged them to write in it daily happy, sad, mad – it doesn't
matter, write it.
We created teams or "posses" who would work and
play and take the challenges together. Some of the activities were competition,
each posse member would help, support and encourage the team. And we set out
about the glorious day. First we worked, real ranches have real work, we mucked
paddocks and cleaned tack. Of course at first there was a bit of confusion,
hesitation but as minutes wore on teamwork and cooperation began to lighten the
load, and faces. Always Michael was there to encourage and inspire, as he
promised he would be. All the volunteers were, too.
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The "Fall Of Faith" |
The first challenge was the "Fall Of Faith." A 10
foot step ladder the girls were to step up as high as they could bear, cross their
arms and fall back, trusting that the adults, and a few team members would
catch them. Great fear and doubt kept anyone from being willing, but Michael
reminded them, he, and all of us were there to catch them, they would never
fall alone. Eventually one girl went first to great cheers! Then another and
another, the cheers and encouragement got louder, funnier and soon even the
most timid girl took the fall ... Several insisted on going again as they
wanted to step higher up the ladder. I studied their faces, by the end of this
first challenge not a single face lacked a smile, all hard faces had melted
a little already. And Michael's lowest score was now minus 5.
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Relaxing in the sun for lunch |
Then lunch, which proved to be a circus of laughter and
giggles as each girl relived their "not very scary" fall of faith.
Michael drifted among them, as we sat in the sun warmed grass, and told stories
about everything from his recording and TV and acting days to his first horse. Then
he started roping the "straw steers" and some of the girls had short
but successful lariat tossing lessons.
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Learning about balance, trust and connection with Sandman's help |
It was time to ride now, and LaRue's fine and devoted lesson
horses, Donny, Sandman and Penny entered the ring. A few girls were extremely
eager, a few timid, a few refused, at first. Now riding time at a "Slicker"
is about much more than riding, which is done bareback. It's about discovering
the spirit of the horse, learning to hear the horse and facing fears, if there
are any, with the help of the horse. I gave a little talk on the connection
between horses and humans while volunteers readied the girls with helmets. First they mingled with the horses, some
touched, others hugged, and finally a few rode. And with Michael's promised
support and encouragement, eventually everyone rode. I noticed even the most
isolated girls began to join in the fun, the posses mingled together, all
helped one another. Michael's score moved up to an even zero.
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Teamwork, high spirits and reaching high for a goal, the Cowboy Toothpick |
For the next hour we played confidence and team and trust building
games, the "Cowboy Toothpick," a 12 foot high pole and each posse collaborates
to drop 3 rings over the top – it takes real teamwork to get a posse member up
that high! But with effort, teamwork and plenty of cheering and laughter they
got it done, together!
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Ridin' high with new found confidence on the wild Barrel Bull (I wish I could paste here the thundering cheers of encouragement!) |
The day's highlight, and most demanding and thrilling challenge,
the barrel bull ride, was saved for last. Each step of the way all day is
carefully orchestrated to build high spirits, self confidence and trust, and
even though each participant by this time had overcome fears, and built trust,
in themselves, each other, Michael and our volunteers, that high swinging
barrel gave them all pause ... For about a minute. Then cries of encouragement
convinced one girl to ride high, and soon everyone rode the barrel bull,
laughing, screaming and loving it. Michael told them, "It only takes
balance, just like life."
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Ending the day with thoughts about living and loving life with self respect, courage, faith, dreams and purpose. |
We ended the day back in the barn where we all talked at
once, laughed about the silliness of the day and congratulated everyone on
their success and spirit of going for it. I looked carefully at tired, dirty,
happy faces ... not a single uninterested or hard face could be found. I got
the feeling for some of them it may well have been the most fun day they could
remember, perhaps ever had. Michael assured them he, and we, would always be
there for them, they were never alone again, they could contact him, or us,
anytime. for any reason. Michael asked them to write another entry in their
journals, that they might have today to turn to, always. Michael's "trust"
score had skyrocketed to 15!
Gitty Up ~ Dutch Henry
Photos by Connie Bloss
and Cynthia Drew -