Howdy Friends,
We’ve all seen it, owners, trainers or friends working in
round pens or rings, with a worried, sometimes terrified horse, waving a bag, a
towel or some other object at the horse to “Desensitize the horse.” I
understand some reading this think I’ve described an exaggerated scene, others
will think it’s got to be done, and still others think they would never do
that. I’m in that last camp—I would
never do that or anything close. Nor could I recommend it.
“But they need to be taught a bag can’t hurt them,” some
say. Or a pile of other explanations why “desensitization” is an important part
of “training.” Training, another word I’m not real fond of. I don’t want to be
“trained,” or “desensitized.” Do you? I’d rather be educated, or coached.
Semantics, you think? No. Words should mean things, and they do. Take just a
second here and truly ponder the difference you feel when you think, “train”
... or “educate.” They make you feel different inside don’t they?
So how do you help a horse understand flying bags and
blankets, falling branches, loud noises and a mountain of other scary things
won’t harm her? Easy. Education and confidence building. When a horse has
confidence not much will frighten her. When she’s confident in herself, and her
person, the scary things are simply, things—not life threatening monsters.
Confidence building is a long term strategy, and we can make
it happen by being confident ourselves, and consistent in our manners, actions
and support. Yes it takes longer than a weekend clinic on desensitization—which
will surely get a horse less worried about the bag, flag, bucket or bang the
weekend was designed to make unscary ... But in most cases it will not build
confidence. What it most often builds is a worried compliance. I must point out
that many horses are skilled in hiding their worry with compliance. But worry
and fear can resurface in the blink of an eye, in a most dangerous way, when
the next “scary thing” that had not been used to desensitize, suddenly appears
out of nowhere. The weak link is the lack of confidence building.
It is totally impossible to desensitize a horse to every
scary or worrisome object a horse and rider might ever encounter. And that is
the flaw. And it is a big flaw, for when the desensitized horse has an incident
after training, and the rider momentarily gets scared themselves and
disciplines the horse for what is a natural reaction, the bond between horse
and human suffers a strain, a little damage. That’s not a good thing. Not for
the person, not for the horse.
Building self confidence within the horse is the answer.
Conducting one’s self in a manner steeped in confidence, support and I might
say mentorship, builds confidence in the horse.
Take time to understand the horse, as much time as she
needs. When riding, doing groundwork, playing games, never push beyond what the
horse is comfortable, confident with. Ever. In everything you do make sure the
horse is ready to go to the next level. Revisit often things she has mastered,
and enjoys doing. This will create layers, upon layers of confidence. Those
layers of confidence will build a suit of armor ever present for any scary,
unexpected or surprising thing that suddenly appears. And she’ll handle all the
never-before-seens with inner strength of self-confidence—not suppressed fear.
Don’t desensitize your horse ... Empower her!
Gitty Up, Dutch Henry
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Excellent advice. But how do we help them become more confident? Can you please give us some tried-and-true examples? Thanks, Dutch ❤
ReplyDeleteYou bet Robynne. In the story i explain building confidence is a careful step by step process
Deletethat is centered on doing things with your horse that she can do, and enjoys, no matter what those things are-leading, backing up, walking past a barrel, post, hole, tarp. then begin to add things that are WELL WITHIN her comfort zone. I also have a link in the story to a story I wrote about "Confidence building" And if you search in the blog the word "Confidence" you'll find several other stories. ~ Gitty Up, Dutch