Howdy Folks,
How do you
respond when your horse asks a question? You might be surprised to learn a lot
of folks don't even know their horse can, and often do ask questions. So how
can they respond to a question they don't know is being asked?
Kessy asking me a question |
Imagine you and
your spouse, or a trusted friend, are planning to go to the movies. You've
talked about it, now it's time. You innocently ask, "Are we ready to
go?" To your surprise the response is a sharp toned, "Stand still
until I tell you to move." Of course we all know this is a harsh example
and no one talks to spouses, friends or horses this way. Surely not.
But what if your
question was, "Is this cake still good to eat?" and the answer came,
"Eat what I put in front of you!"
Horses ask
questions all the time and many times they go unanswered, or answers come
unrelated to the question. Suppose you ask, "What time does Dancing With
The Stars come on?" and you're told, "Wash the car before the rain starts."
Hard to make sense of that one, I reckon.
How do you know
if your horse is asking a question? If we're listening they tell us in many
little ways. Horses by their very nature are full of questions, but too many
times they're taught their questions are unimportant or worse, the act of
asking a question is considered a discipline or training problem.
Just like us,
horses want to be happy. They have a desire to please. And they think a lot.
They are better than most folks at noticing things; things they want
investigate, things they love, and things they worry about. We have a responsibility as owners,
caregivers and partners to be there for our horses. When they ask a question
that's important to them, it should be important to us.
Just as for us sometimes,
the answer to your horse's question may not be the answer she wants, but we
should at least take the time to answer it. Politely. And sometimes it'll be
exactly the answer she's looking for.
How can we hear a
question? When she hesitates at a cue, or request she's asking. Listen. Look in
her eyes. Trust your thoughts, your intuition. It's extremely important to not
be negative or demanding at this point. Your first thought, in a positive
manner, will be the answer to her question. Tell her. Yes you can speak just as
you would to anyone who asked a question. Tell her what she needs to know, and
perhaps show her. Think of opening the way and allowing her to follow through.
The neat thing
about listening for questions is, the more you do it, the better you'll become.
You'll learn from each other. Questions are good things, we learn by asking. So
do our horses. Reward the asking in a positive way and anything you would like
to do together is possible.
Gitty Up ~ Dutch
Henry
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