Howdy Folks,
Yesterday I
talked about Kessy and her willingness to find a way to keep both of us
balanced at a quicker gait. It was that trying on her end that caused her to
discover her newest gait, a Rack. A Rack is a 4 beat gait, like the Running
Walk, but with shorter and quicker strides. It's comparable to a quick trot in
speed, and that's the story here. I'd been asking for a little more speed than
the running walk, but I'd been having trouble sitting the canter lately, so
Kessy had begun to drop in and out of canter, even mixing in a trot, while
seeking balance, and she found a gait neither of us knew she had.
Why did she try
so hard? I think she tried so hard because over the past three years we've developed
a partnership. I don't mean a partnership where I'm the "boss" or
"alpha horse." I know, we're all told we need to do that to gain our
horse's respect and obedience ... I've never bought into that ... Don't know if I'm
right or not, I just know that's not how I think. The partnership Kessy and I
have is one of equals. Does she do everything I'd like? No … not yet. Do I do everything she'd like? No … not yet.
So how do you
build a partnership of "equals" that works? I believe you've got to
"give" to your horse. Most horse/human relationships are structured
around, "training." In one way or another, the human
"trains" the horse to do what the human wants. Some folks say they're
all about "natural horsemanship." I don't think there is anything
"natural" about a round pen. But however they do it, the person
expects their horse to be, "trained" to the person's perspective.
Some folks even say, "it's got to make sense to the horse." But often
the training is still from the person's perspective.
Oh don't misunderstand
me, training is necessary to the relationship, but if you work on the
relationship first, the training is really just more relationship building. What does
that mean? …
Sadly most
horse/human relationships consist of, feeding, training, riding, housing, grooming,
hoof and other health care. All very important things indeed, but where is the
horse's perspective in that? Sure they nicker when the person comes with the
hay. Is it because she's happy to see the person, or the hay?
I believe for
every hour spent in "training" at least as many hours should be spent
"giving to the horse." Many horses are only in the ring with their
person to be "worked" or "schooled" or "trained"
or shown. The horse can't help but see the ring, or round pen, (or human) as
anything other than a place of stress. Some horses will show it. Others will
internalize it. The effects of that stress may not show up for years, but it'll
show up. Then folks say "I don't understand why he started being so ring
sour," or slow, or stubborn or any of the many complaints we've all heard
too often.
What if for every
hour in the training session there was an hour spent in the ring just hanging
out with the horse? A person could toss a flake of hay out and sit with their
horse there and read a book, or work on their laptop, or just watch their horse
relax and munch hay. Takes too much time? Actually it's good therapy for the
human, too. And it's doing something for the horse, instead of expecting
something from the horse. It's more powerful than simply turning the horse out
in the pasture and going home. Because you're there with her, without asking
for anything.
Doing the release
and relax exercises, based on Linda Tellington-Jones and Peggy Cumming's
teachings are a most wonderful way to "Do something just for the
horse." These exercises "give to the horse" without asking, or
expecting anything of the horse. It's totally giving ... Total partnership
building.
Sitting in the
barn, or walking around their paddock, lot or pasture with them, just hanging
out with them, this is partnership building. And in my opinion is really
important to the horse. Yes it does take time. But aren't they worth it? And I
submit it is time very well spent for two big reasons. First you'll actually
need to spend less time training, because the relationship will be so strong.
You'll hear your horse and your horse will hear you. Cues are easier to hear,
feel and follow for both horse and human. Second these quiet moments do wonders
for people too! We can all slow down a little.
Kessy, Saturday and me, "just hanging out" |
I attribute
Kessy's desire to try so very hard to take care of me that she found a gait, a
new way, because she wanted to help her partner ... Am I silly about that? Well,
perhaps, but that's my belief ... And I suggest if you can find the time to
just give to your horse, by offering the relax and release exercises, and just
hanging out with her, be there "for her," without asking anything in
return, your relationship will deepen in ways you can't imagine.
Gitty Up ~ Dutch
Henry
WONDERFUL and NEW perspective on bonding with one's horse, Dutch. And one I've never read before. All I ever read about is showing "who's boss" and "take him into the arena" and "school him", "train him", "show him" and on and on. This is the first I've ever read about giving to your horse just because you love him and want to spend time with him. It makes sense that doing that would do wonders for your relationship with him. Thank you for writing this and telling me something I didn't ever think about.
ReplyDeletePatti
Great information, Dutch! I'll be sharing this for sure.
ReplyDeleteThanks Jodi!! And thank you for being a Coffee Clutcher!
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